A while back, I was having a conversation with a friend and we were discussing breakups and heartbreak. He stated that when a relationships is over, there is no need to dwell in hurt feelings. To just get over it and move on. I initially disagreed. I think that when you are hurt or feeling some kind of way about someone, that it is okay to "be in those feelings". Healthy, even. Most times you feel the way you feel for a reason. I think that it is necessary to examine those feelings.
After further discussion, I begin to see his side a little better. When a relationship is over, it's over. Sometimes dwelling in the "whys & why not" are counterproductive. It may lead you to start to question whether you made the right decision. That can drive you crazy.
I know. I did that very thing the FIRST time I broke up with my ex. He was still calling and talking about how sorry he was that he'd hurt me. I was lonely and missing him and crying everyday, so I figured that meant we needed to get back together. Right? We did and 4 months later he disappointed me a second time. The thing is I KNEW that giving him another chance was a HUGE mistake. But I decided to ignore the truth and take a chance on a lie. Get your heart broke 2 times in the course of 6 months and it teaches you a lesson. A hard one, but a lesson, nonetheless. We have to stop second guessing ourselves. GOD gave us intuition for a reason. It's rarely wrong.
Though people make rash decisions all the time, most times the decision to end a relationship is one that has been in the works for a while.
It's over for a reason. Let It Be.
